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Grief coaching for caregivers

For the exhaustion, the guilt, the grief before the loss, and all that you carry in silence.

Online, from wherever you feel safest.

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November 1:1 spaces are open, if you’re ready for some support of your own

November 1:1 spaces are open, if you’re ready for some support of your own

Grieving someone who is still alive is real and it’s called anticipatory grief

With every deterioration, your body, heart, mind and nervous system brace for the end. Living like that brings such sadness, anxiety, and even moments of wishing it was over, followed by overwhelming guilt.

I remember having those thoughts and feeling like I couldn’t say them out loud.

You are not a bad person for having these thoughts. You’re holding a lot and you’re doing your best.

If you’re in that space now, I see you.

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When caregiving ends, you don’t just lose them. You lose the version of you that showed up for them every single day

And then you realise you no longer know how to meet your own needs. You’re constantly overwhelmed, or full of anxiety. Unable to make even the simplest decisions…like what to have for dinner.

Nobody prepares you for that part.

I’ll help you rebuild who you are outside of caregiving.

Slowly, step by step, at your pace.

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It’s your nervous system, still protecting you

Maybe you’re constantly in fight or flight, shut down or on edge. Exhausted from holding it all together and being the strong one, while feeling silently broken inside. Or completely numb, like the lights are on but no-one’s home.

Grief doesn’t just live in your mind. It lives in your nervous system, your body, your behaviours and patterns. That’s why my work is holistic and trauma-informed. We go beyond talking, building awareness of the sensations, tension and signals in your body, to reach what talking alone can’t.

Your nervous system can learn to feel safe again.

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You’ve spent so long walking beside someone else. Now I’m here to walk beside you, as you learn to navigate life alongside your grief, and maybe even make friends with it one day.

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1:1 Coaching for Caregivers

For caregivers, while you’re still caring and after it ends because you’re holding grief even before the goodbye.

You’ve been holding it all on your own. This is a space that’s entirely yours, to be seen and supported in all of it.

It’s not a quick fix. It’s a slow, steady container. We expand what your nervous system can hold, and rebuild step by step towards a life that feels like you again, however that looks for you.

Letting a little light back in, one glimmer at a time.

Weekly 1-hour sessions online, plus Telegram between sessions so you’re never alone with it. Because grief doesn’t have a timeline.

3- and 6-month containers.

Book your free connection call
Book your free connection call
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Caregivers Cosy Circle

For caregivers, while you’re still caring and after it ends.

When I was caring for my nan, there were so many thoughts I carried completely alone. It’s flippin’ lonely, and I don’t want anyone else feeling that way.

So once a month, we get together online for an hour. Nervous-system tools, journal prompts, and people who actually get it. Say the things you can’t say anywhere else.

It’s free. Come in your dressing gown, lamp on, from your bed or the sofa. Whatever helps you feel safe.

You deserve support too.

Join the circle
Join the circle
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I’m Harley, a holistic, trauma-informed grief coach

For years I was my Nan’s carer. It came after losing my uncle and my grandad, her son and her husband. Then, while I was caring for her, I lost another uncle and my Nanny Dot too. There was never any space to grieve any of it. She became my coping mechanism without me even realising it.

So when she died in 2024, I didn’t just lose her. I lost the version of me that showed up for her every day. The grief for all of the losses hit, and it hit hard.

Working with my own grief coach for 18 months, mostly from my sofa in a hoodie, is what started to shift things.

I wasn’t broken or doing grief wrong. I was having a completely human response to losing the people I love.

Now I’m a holistic, trauma-informed grief coach for caregivers. Also ex-corporate HR, former people-pleaser, dog mum, professional overthinker, certified cosy girl and late diagnosed AuDHDer.

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  • Kind words from my clients...

    I have been working with Harley for over 6 months and she is a truly wonderful coach. She is compassionate and caring and holds a wonderful space for me to sit with my grief. Since working with her I have been more able to process the emotions that I used to avoid and it is so comforting to have her in my corner in the tough moments. 


    Harley has a gentle yet powerful way of guiding me back to myself, helping me to find moments of calm and clarity even in the hardest of days. I always leave our sessions feeling lighter, more grounded and totally supported. Her calming presence is a real gift.
    (1:1 Grief Coaching)

  • Kind words from my clients...

    Harley creates a warm, safe and deeply supported space. Her approach has helped me understand that grief isn't about being fixed, but about being gently guided. Harley holds the space I need to explore grief and everything in between. After each somatic exploration, I leave with more clarity and a deep sense that I'm another step closer to rebuilding myself.
    (1:1 Grief Coaching)

You don’t have to hold it all together alone

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